Some of you know I'm disabled and can't work.
I fall in the cracks and can't get disability.
I have been homeless because of this.

And now THIS!

My mother is an self edited, she's going to sign her house over to my brother Eddie, like she hasn't figured out yet that he is selfish and greedy. She won't be cold in her grave till he will have it up for sale and to self edited with me. He has never cared for me.

She is giving it to him and saying he will have to provide me with a home if anything happens to her, but he won't, I know him!

She hasn't learned her lesson yet, she loans him stuff, he sells it instead of giving it back.

She put a lot in his name so she could try to get welfare, with the understanding it was still hers. He sold it.

He has always been selfish and greedy, but he has always been her favorite child.

My mother is 68, has congestive heart failure and diabetes. Who knows how long she will be around?
I'm sure it sounds cold for me to say it that way, but I have to think of my future.

I can't even save up what little money I come out ahead on the Internet, because she pressures me give it all to her, then gripes because I don't make more money to give to her.

She's driving me INSANE! I can't take much more, how am I going to handle this situation I'm in!!!???

Sorry, that was a rhetorical question. I just need to vent.

sorry this is happening, Free! Didn't know you had it so hard.

I will pray for you.

Do you have an ARC around you someplace? They have advocates to help you get disability.

What is an ARC?

http://www.arcmonroe.org/

Here's an addy for NY. Contact them for one in your area. Perhaps they can be of some assistance. We have one local to me in Monroe County MI, and the lady there is fantastic. Told me exactly what to say, etc. She just happens to be funded by Social Security. Though she can help me out, she can't actually do the advocating with SS but would find someone who could do that.

Hope this helps.

btw-contact Ladyknight, she works with disabled and may have some more resources for you. She's given me a ton!

Also try Goodwill Industries, they usually provide an advocate to help prove your case. At least, they used to. If not they may have some resources for you.

God Bless you and help you get what you need.

Well, it took her this long to get around to it, but they finally went to the lawyer and had it done. She took it a step further and gave my brother power of attorney over her.

Will my mother learn a bitter lesson too late? A few years ago she put a small piece of land in my brother's name so that it wouldn't be counted as a financial assett so that she could get some badly needed welfare help. According to their agreement, it was supposed to remain hers except on paper. Within a few weeks he sold it and used the money as a down payment on a new house. That hurt her feelings so badly. Yet she still trusts him.

Now I'm living in terror.

Some people just don't get it these days. My mother's friend can be lied to by her little circle but if I say something (and even if I have reasearched the subject) she wont believe me. I think psychiatrists should make a name for this condition.

I'll pray for you and I hope your mother realizes whats going on.

Walk away free, just walk away

I know it sounds painful but your peace of mind is more important that the stress they can cause you in your condition.

I am not joking but.I honestly thought you were earnings atleast $50,000 a month by seeing your huge amount of posts.
Well,I prefer forget it.you can make many things happen alone.leave your mother to do whatever she wants.stay away from her decisions.dont interfere.
Give me sometime.I might help you become financially seure.I am not asking any investment from your side.but i have some ideas,once i decide i will let you know.This is not something like Sympathy.I am helping you because even i have a cousin brother who has polio attack but is very near to my heart.
I cant help everyone like this.but only on your part i will.

buddy,dont loose heart.leave everything behind.let your mother whatever she wants to.let your brother do whatever he wants to.take them out of your family book and see,how good it will feel.sometime more and i will let you know what to do.its a real honest job.no scams attached.
Remember "Fortune favours the brave".just dont loose heart.

with warm regards,
PSERA Admin.

That's true.

Kinda hard to do when one is disabled and has no money or transportation.

(((((((Cathy))))))

Oh, I'm so very sorry about all of this. Will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

Cheri

Hello free....Been out of touch with GPF lately.Our area was listed as a disaster area because of Hurricane Rita, and trying to remedy our situation from that am now sitting in my recliner after having foot surgery, and am not able to put weight on my right foot for 4 weeks.I am in a "soft cast" now, but this Wed. I go to the DR. to he can put me in a full cast for 6 weeks, and then, the walking boot for 3 months. My Momma who has Alzheimers also lives with my husband and I, but I am her main caregiver, which has been very hard since I am not to be up except to go to the bathroom!! ha...right
My Daddy passed away 2 years ago, and my brother died a year ago. He was head injured for 22 years, and for the 8 years before his death, I was his main caregiver too.
I have a younger brother also. His wife thinks he has been a "good son",but he has not "been there" when he was needed.
He did finally agree to keep our Momma for 1 month so my hubby and I could "getaway", but hurricane Rita choose our place for her path, so I got 2 weeks, and then while the power was still OFF, he brought her home to me! Then when I knew I was to have this surgery I called, and he said"I guess you have to do what you have to do" so I knew I was on my own. Good Son ?? !!
I didn't mean to write a book,just wanted you to know that I am "another" one that has problems,but I say to you,like some of the others,try to live your life without worry, because that doesn't help a "normal" person, much less a disabled person. You have been dealt a huge wild card, and so far hasn't been good to you, but you can turn it around and be a winner from your situation.
I can't say "forget them" they are your family... but you need to distance yourself in order to gain yourself.If you don't love yourself,you can't love others. And in order to love yourself you have to take care of yourself.
You can't bank on an inheritance to help you for the rest of your life, but you can take this to the bank...... Your Heavenly Father... loves you and so far has protected you.I am sure that you don't feel that way right now, but I assure you He is there beside you.. right beside you, and if you ask... you will receive!!
Good luck to you , and I also will put you in my prayers.

((((Freeandeasy)))))

You are correct. It's so difficult for me because as a child I received no affection whatsover, only very severe abuse. And I carried that legacy into my adulthood by finding myself in a series of abusive relationships until I gave up and withdrew almost completely from society. Avoid people= avoid pain.
Due to an accelerating and rapidly deteriorating situation with my family in the last couple of years, for the first time in my life I am even losing hope. I find myself sinking into total despair, and my already shaky self-esteem has sunk to the lowest it has been since my childhood.
I alternately try to draw nearer to God and simultaneously pull away from Him because I feel so unworthy.
I feel as though I am falling over a precipice.

((((((freeandeasy)))))) I know EXACTLY how you feel. I have no self-esteem, i'm in an abusive relationship with my husband, my mother is still trying to control me (i'm 43, not 4), and I feel very unworthy. I've been depressed before, but this has been absolutely the worst year of my life and i'm barely hanging on. I'm not living - just existing. I don't know if I can be of any help to you - i'm much better at solving other's problems than my own - but if you'd ever like to talk, please feel free to PM me and IM on MSN messenger. My id there is cherylwaldrop@charter.net.
I'll be praying for you.
GOD BLESS - Cheri

Well, I was in a very similar situation. My brother was the "good one". I always took second place.

However, during the last three months of my Mother's life she was in the hospital. Congestive heart failure, Diabetes, COPD, and a few other things. Well wonderful brother would not come and visit. I was the one keeping the bedside vigil, and seeing to it that she got the care that she needed.

Three days before my Mom terminated treatment, she had me call the lawyer, and totally re-wrote her Will. I thankfully got the house, and most of the money, which is what I am living on since I am now disabled.

So, there is always hope. You are in my prayers.