Ive seen people really starting to show that Im not doing more good than harm.


I want to be a good poster one where you all(most ofcourse lol) can respect my position .


So please help me help u.


btw I wonder if youve seen that UI did take some of your previous ideas to heart cause I did lol.

Hi,

I don't know if you are a good or a bad poster, just be yourself that is all what matters and keep in mind that you won't please everyone anyway.

One thing maybe , the color of the font you choose, I can hardly read it as it is not dark enough for me.

Have a good day and take care

Sophie

Think in terms of quality, not quantity

I agree about the color of the font. I was going to post about it yesterday but decided not too.

I don't know you very well but you seem like a nice guy to me, always trying to be helpfull so I don't see a bad thing about you. Most posts I remember of you are very nice.

...Rick

Exactly what position of yours should we respect, Ray? From where I sit, you have no position here. You're not a mod, please stop pretending to be. Instead of acting like a mod wannabe and picking out people's signatures or telling them to stay on topic, why not just go back to being Ray, the member? I for one, like the old Ray much better.

Im sorry but I thought for at least two weeks now Ive stopped saying SPAM, unless lol others already have...and I do say something helpful also. I also have stopped telling people about their sigs...a little in the sig asking section if its been a little while and its very obvious whats wrong or right. Im sorry I really thought for the most part Ive stoped acting like a mod. Oh and when people put spam in the middle of topic I dont even mention it anymore. You havent noticed the changes....anyone?

Ok some people that really should be helping me here arent, heres a great chance for them to help give me constructive criticsim instead of derailing the the free discussion topic. I even see people not liking the color font Im using I give them links but noe they cant even help me there.

Im really trying to help you all out by becoming better but the people who are really affected dont seem to be coming and posting in threads or PMing me their suggestions for improvement. What Am I to do.

Personally I dont see that I changed but you all do it seems so if I cant see the difference how can I go back to being the old me or even an old me with even better me lol?

this was not directed squarely at you Melissa actually I dont remember who saying to me you didnt like what I was doing lol. but others have and they arent posting here.

The new font colors are hard for me to read, I thought that it was probably must my old monitor from 1996... but I see others saying the same, so maybe not.
Maybe you could try darkgreen?

The only other thing... I hate to even mention it because this probably IS only me... the lack of punctuation and spelling & grammatical errors make your posts hard for me to read. (I have been diagnosed with an OCD in this area - so I'm sure it's just the synapsis in my brain - probably other people can interpret it just fine)

Although we may have differences in opinion at times, I still respect your opinions and I think you're a good guy, and in your heart you're trying to help others.

eta bolding

cmbrewer, ok so dark green for one of the 7 days, will do! maybe you can find 6 others? btw is the grammactical and spelling errors a recent thing or has it een months? if its recent is cause part of my laptop where the backspace and p and l are doesnt have the screw holding it down so its very hard to only type one p or backspace only once. Im also not a great speller and grammer person in general lol.

thankyou for that last compliment its nice to hear and I really do try.

Ray,

You're just not getting it. We don't want you to "be better". We just want you to be yourself, the way you were before the new mod recruitment. Just yesterday, or maybe the day before............You asked somebody not to derail the topic and to open a new thread. That's not your place. It's not anybody's place, except the mods. If it bothers them, then let them take care of it.

You want some constructive criticism? Be the nice, fun loving, helpful Ray you used to be. If somebody has a signature that's too large, take it to the signature thread. Don't tell posters to start new threads. Don't offer answers you don't know. Stop posting just for the sake of posting. Like Enchanted said, quality over quantity.

Nobody has a problem with you calling a spammer a spammer. We all do it. As for the color of your fonts, it doesn't bother me at all. Even if it did, I wouldn't complain about it. I think that's just petty. Nothing wrong with you trying to be unique with your posts.

Before you post, think about what you're going to say before you say it. It may not be your intention, but you come across very bossy. I certainly would resent being bossed around by a member who's on an equal level as I am. I know you're trying to be helpful, but I think you're just trying too hard.

Lighten up, and be yourself.

As far as the colors go... I'd stick with doing color=darkred darkblue darkpurple... anything EXCEPT GOLD!!!!! Just do it with dark, and bold it. That should make it easier for everyone to read.

I don't remember the spelling/grammar being as bad last year as it is now, so it's probably the keyboard. The punctuation.... well...... I have considered buying you a comma or two in the past I really hope that doesn't offend you - and I do realize it's my own little personal problem - I've been working hard not to let my OCD affect me so much over the past 10 years or so. Thank God for meds, eh?

You're welcome for the compliment

I am serious stop change fonts color. Make me can't read and always will skip.

well catnip is 7 colors too much...I will stop changing them once I get 7 we all can agree upon.

cmbrewer, Ill try to find 7 colors should I pm you the choice I get or just post here and you will come back and tell me if I did good choices? yeah lol meds can only help so far though.

melissa, I have always been myself and it may not seem like it but I dont post just for the sake of osting if I did that I could get 100 posts a day a there are many times I dont comment where I could if I just wanted more posts. I told usdollars to move ity to another topic please as it would have been tottally of the originial topic which was mine since its my topic I thought I had enough authourity to ask nicely if he wanted to comment on that subject.

as far as being bossy I dont really see it sorry, I know Im strong in my beliefs is that bossy? and yes Ill from now on make sure I know the answer before posting, Ill also check to make sure as much as I can that grammer and spelling is as good as can be and that I come off as constructive critiscm not just critiscm (I
dont know how to spell "critiscim")

also Melissa, can you show me differences btwn now and then? I just dont see a change.

eta it wasnt bolded catnip, so very sorry!

lol You can PM me if you'd like - I don't get to visit the forum as often now that I have a j-o-b. I must have missed a LOT, since I missed all the ones melissa referred to.

btw...

criticism

Just had to highlight to read. I hope you pick different color as long as dark not light.

BlueViolet #8A2BE2
Brown #A52A2A
DarkGreen #006400
DarkMagenta #8B008B
DarkOrchid #9932CC
DarkRed #8B0000
DarkSlateBlue #483D8B
DarkSlateGray #2F4F4F
DarkViolet #9400D3
DeepPink #FF1493
FireBrick #B22222
ForestGreen #228B22
Fuchsia #FF00FF
Indigo #4B0082
Maroon #800000
MediumBlue #0000CD
MediumVioletRed #C71585
MidnightBlue #191970
Purple #800080
Red #FF0000
SaddleBrown #8B4513
SeaGreen #2E8B57
Sienna #A0522D
SlateBlue #6A5ACD
SlateGray #708090
Teal #008080
VioletRed #D02090

http://www.w3schools.com/css/css_colornames.asp

there ya all go

I like all those colors.

I want 7 of those.

I dont want all blues or all purples lol please try and have a little variety.

Also which day is which color?

No, Ray. There's nothing wrong with being strong in your beliefs, so long as you're not shoving it down other's throats. I haven't seen you doing that. As for your spelling and grammar...........Nobody's perfect. We all make mistakes, typos, grammar and punctuation errors, etc.............

I know you don't see a change, but many of us do. I can't really pinpoint anything at the moment (too tired to think anymore), but read over some of your posts from when you first came to the forum after Yourptr. Then start reading after the announcement for new mods.

Don't get me wrong here, you're still a great guy!

Off to bed now. Night all!

night melissa so read over my posts lol maybe all 3150 of them lol and maybe then Ill see it for myself lol.

please do try and help me figure out what was the cause of the change so maybe we can fix it. but get some sleep first lol

I don't mind the colors. I like them, the black was getting boring.

You asked for opinions, well...
The title of your thread Help me become a better poster/member
Ray, are you trying to win a popularity contest?

Like already mentioned, the grammar/spelling got a bit I have to read your posts a few times to understand them... but that's probably because of lacking/missing punctuation. I do not really care but I know you can do better. (I myself make more than enough errors so I better shut up now lol)

IMO, your posts still sound Mod-like, sometimes more, sometimes less. The sig thing for example... if you start posting in the testing thread... this may be well-meant but it's the Mods job, regardless if the infraction is obvious or not. If I read your posts I always have to think; this guy really wants to be a Mod

Will stop here now.

Just one thing:

Be yourself, be as helpful as possible but don't try to help more than you are able to.

Heck, we do not expect a perfect Ray

Night,
4Cuties

Yes its no secret I want to be mod and out of 16 applicants half got accepted and I didnt so I wanted to wonder why ofcourse unfourtantly you guysdont seem to be allowed to saqy why. So I want to become a better member/poster so I can be a better person. I always want to improve myself. Also people are openly complaining now at me, which is very stranmge I know I cant please everybody but I do respect the people who are complaining so Id like to bece better and be able to please them a little more so they dont run away from me. Its also no secret I want my own site so Im also trying to learn how to post and type to most everyone is ok with me.

Ray, when you contacted me as to why you were no selected, I told you why you did not get selected. You did not get enough votes. It is no such secret. You see, when we close mod application threads, we have a voting. Votes are cast by all the administrators and the moderators of that particular section. We usually have the voting for a week or two (depends on the urgency of mods) and once it is over, we add up the votes. We wanted 8 mods and unfortunately, you did not get enough votes to be in the top 8. It's as simple as that.

You are a nice person. Just stick to the threads that interests you and leave the modding to us. I sometimes get very annoyed to see you posting checking people or commenting where a mod should. This has put me off from reading your posts.

As someone said, just be yourself.

d'Oh!

lol I meant why them and not me lol and yes thats selfish...I thought I was top 8 for sure quality and since I wasnt I would like help to get myself top 8 quality.

Ok Ill stop modding Ill have another tab open for that one thread in issues and if I see any infraction Ill just post it there ok? and so yes they will be getting warnings instead of oops I didnt know and enchanted will be able to hopefully read my posts again, I really am not happy that she hasnt said anything to me ands isnt reading them anymore.....gals and guys please Im an open book what u see is what u get....I thrive in fact on complete honesty so please please tell me the beefs you have with me and help me figure out how to get rid of as most of them as I can with still being me.

Please dont keep it to yourself I want to hear it I want to becoime who I was when I was loved. If Im not liked anymore or not as much that realy trealy saddens me b//c I really am only trying to help. I figure as long as I try to help it shoudnt hurt. If it does I should be told and Ill try to fix my mistake.

Ray, I don't know you very well, so I feel kind of awkward saying what I'm about to say. You are trying much too hard. This is just a forum. It seems to be a large part of your day. Put it all into a bit of perspective. Lay back, read and digest. By doing that you will learn from other posters, it will become automatic.

Everyone wants to improve themselves, but that is an ongoing endeavour for each and every one of us. It doesn't happen overnight. Be patient and relax. Time is not of the essence in this instance. Take care.

ETA: I like the teal blue.

unfourtantly I have no courage no friends besides online ones and of those they have pretty much stopped talking to me.

my brain is shot and dead and buried.

I cant function.

I cant work.

I cant do school.

I can barely do whatr little I do each day. Which is wash dishes for a family of five by hand twice a day maybe 3 times in 2 or 3 days b/c I of my condition. the rest of the day is lying oin the couch laptop on my lap reading the forum and posting.

I lost the ability to multitask.

I finally can click ptr again but still its way to boring to do it.

I cant even get the mind power to send in my upgraded ads.

I have no memory of what happened 10 seconds ago.

I cant access my brain to come up with better words on computer or out loud.

I love GPT and I love you all.

The only thing that I still have an interest in is helping others.

Im seeing a psychologist and psychiatrist botyh once a week. Im attending a small group of people with social problems and the like lol. Im taklng effexor x-r 300 mg daily.

Im have no energy.

I go to sleep and no matter how long it is Im exhausted when I wake up. It can be a very quiet comfortable bed and temperature still same result.

Im putting all my effort into the only thing that even slightly works for me. And apparently now Im not even able to do that as good anymore.

Keep in mind. I was someone everyone would have thought was on a fast track to be somebody big someday. my dead mind was really amazing.

Now you all can know me even better and realize why I am doing what Im doing.

oh andalso theres no way I can keep anything straight anymore.

Im not sure IF BD has ever complained about what Ive done or not for instance.

And no Im not suicidal I am trying to figure out why I am like this and fix it.

Why them and not you... I don't know Ray. I can only speak for myself, not others.

Yes, please report whatever rule infractions you come across in the pinned thread. That way, you won't be annoying us or any other member

Members who break rules the first time (spam, boosting, siggy rule etc) do not get warned first time around. They are issued courtesy notes and issued warnings only if the same rule is broken again. So even if we come across or someone reports, the same procedure is followed by us.

Except the modding thing, I don't have any beef with you. You are a nice, likeable guy. Apart from that, with new year and work, work and work, I have not had much time to take part in the day to day discussions in the forum...Another reason I have not been much active in the open forum.

I'd have to agree with some, I try to skip over your posts anymore. The main reason is because I see you try to "speak" for others or give your opinions as fact when you truly do not know about the subject.

You stated above your memory is not good. Then I would stick with topics that you actually are familiar with and do know about.

As far as "speaking" for others, if you didn't post it, then don't assume you know what someone else is typing about. If someone asks for clarification or asks to clear up a misunderstanding, then let the person that is being asked ... answer. Don't try to interpret what you think they meant.

Lisa

Ray, It sounds like your meds are not helping, perhaps even harming you. Your doctors should be made aware of your situation. I do not have a lot of experience in this area, but my husband was put on prozac some years ago. The doctor saw him once a month for maybe 5 minutes. The drug was doing harm and no good, so he slowly got off of it and left the doctor. I'm not saying to leave your doctors, perhaps a new one might have something better to offer you. Have you considered volunteer work in your community? Perhaps you are spending too much time on your computer and not enough with your fellow man?

My prayers and thoughts will be with you,
Peggy

yeah I definantly need another pill and or a different one.

I see both my med and psy onmce a week actually my med and my previous psy I see every tuesday also so he does see me a lot lol. and I constantly complain about all of this junk.

me thinks he just thinks its all related under depression lol.

Lisa ok I understand better.

Sounds like not only are your meds. possibly wrong but maybe you need to try a different Dr. Lots of people posting on these forums have said that Zoloft made their memory so bad that some of them had to change medicines.(Dont know what meds you are taking of course). Obviousely (it seems to me) the meds. you have now are not doing you a whole lot of good.

lol Im taking effexor extended relief 300 mg daily starting dose is 37.5mg then 75mg and most take 75mg.

yeah zolofot apparently worked but my mind couldnt be analytical so I quit that.


Ill be changing docs soon as school insurance runs out soon.

Be careful on the meds.I was toxicated from those kind of meds.I can't remeber anything ( not even my birthday)

But as far as the post you didn't really bad.As long as you type a little slower than will get better.

Ray, I don't know anything about depression and medicines used for it but a friend of me was depressed for a long time and then he started to smoke a littlebit of weed a few times a week. I'm not trying to let you use those drugs but just want to help you.

Here's an article I found about this (also scroll down to read the comments )

http://www.pulpfiction.com/article123.html

I hope you take this serious because I am serious and not joking.

Good luck with it, you can always pm me if you want!

...Rick

ok I am tottaly against smoking drugs, smokes, cigs and drinking beer wine etc

however I did read your article

my honest opinion


MaryJane ofcourse may be the solution for some as nothing works on everybody the same way and we are all different. However theres literally hundreds of drugs out there for depression and related diseases. so Ill go through all of those before ever even considering MaryJane. MaryJane kills your brain cells so thats not really a good solution.


Thanks for allowing me to PM you.

Ray, I've got to say that I think a lot of your current problems are coming from your meds. Granted, I haven't been reading all of your posts but just from what you are saying the Effexor (IMHO) is the likely culprit. You've got to remember that these head meds not only effect your moods, they effect your whole brain - everything from memory to motor skills.

I haven't been around the forum much lately but if you're able to notice a change then it's real and most likely related to something external that is effecting you. Since you've said that you don't do drugs or drink the only things left are what you're eating and your meds.

You can PM me if you'd like or go ahead and ask me questions in the open forum. Everyone here knows that I've had my share of issues with my depressed/bipolar-ridden brain. But I think it's important that you recognize that this is most likely not a problem with you, it's a problem with your reaction to the meds. (((((Ray)))))

why thanks Girrl I feel much better knowing thats its most likely the meds and not me thats changed lol. I mean the meds changed me not me changed me.

thanks for letting me PM you but lol Im more of an IM person myself lol.

Hi Ray !

I've taken Effexor before and it totally messed my whole system up - not just my ability to concentrate, analyze, and retain things, but also my body chemistry. It made me gain weight and caused extreme fatigue. If I were you, I'd get off it ASAP. In my opinion it's a bad drug.

I take Valium for anxiety attacks.

I quit taking all the other drugs the doctors were oh, so eager to prescribe for me. I'm bi-polar, but i'd rather deal with the up's and down's associated with that than take med's which don't allow me to experience both the joy and the sadness of life. I like me when i'm in a manic phase - I get ton's of stuff done, and when i'm depressed i've found that there are things I can do to help me get through it.

Feel free to PM me or IM me anytime.

Take care and best wishes - Cheri

Ray,
I agree it has a lot to do with your meds. My mom has a chemical imbalance and has been on different meds her whole life just so they could find the perfect combination. She used to be SO moody. Some meds made her depression much worse and she'd say weird things. She got to the point where she didn't want to leave the house to do anything. Now she makes herself leave and she feels better for going even though she dreads dragging herself out the door. We had to tell her how she was acting because she didn't seem to notice it. She has a wonderful behavioral therapist now. A good therapist truly does make a big difference so when you can switch, I'd really do it. My mom had an older gentleman for her therapist previously and he didn't want to try any new drugs or treatments. There are some just stuck in their ways. Fortunatly the best thing that happened was they switched insurance companies and her previous dr. wasn't covered.

I've found from watching my mom that it is easier for her to be judgemental and find fault with everyone elses problems or what they were doing instead of worrying about herself. Maybe since GPF is such a big part of your life right now you are doing the same concerning everyone's posts and actions?

Good Luck finding the solution.

Cheri, Pmd you and I tired to add your msn to mine.

Hof, effexor is that bad lol and ofcourse it could be that bad for your mom lol as every drug is bound toi be horrible for some and spplendid for some lol....thanks for sharing. btw I love helping people and thats the only interest I have lol so thats why lol.

bump anyone please help me

What's wrong, Ray? You can pm me if you want.

Ray,
Don't take this the wrong way but we have all offered our advice and you have various reasons as to why you can't do anything we've suggested. We can't help you anymore then YOU let us.

Hi, Ray

I don't know you--all I know is what you post here.

What I can offer you is just a little advice:

From what I'm reading, you really need to get off whatever medication you're on. It doesn't seem to be working. I am serious--it seems to be doing much more harm than good. Now I am one that doesn't trust medicine in the least--I have to be half dead to take a tylenol! Next check your diet--try to eat more fruits, vegetables and grains and less meats, fats and sugars. (Now I don't know what you do eat--but if you eat a lot of junk foods and such it's not good for you at all.) Finally you really need to get away from the computer for a while. Step outside....take a deep breath....look at the world around you. Walk around a little. Next day walk a little more. You need to get away from the online world for a while and get into the real world a little. I know that it can be a not so nice place sometimes........but when you look up at the sky.....and see the sunshine...hear the birds........it does make things seem a little nicer, at least for me. (Yes, I know it sounds hokey.....but it really works )

There are a lot of people that are concerned for you, and I see lots of people trying to help you. It's up to you to take the advice that's given and use it to the best of your ability. Nobody can do that but you.

Whatever you do, please take care of yourself! Let us know how things are going for you.

Take care,

Billie

billiev, with all due respect, it is not a good idea for a patient to just stop taking some medications without their doctor's knowledge or supervision. This could potentially cause more harm than good.

Ray, you need to tell your doctor everything you are experiencing and feeling and let him decide what is best for you. Please get your family involved also. They may not see what is happening but perhaps if you tell them how you are feeling they will help you. Strangers on the internet can only do so much. It is up to you, your family and your doctors to decide the best course of treatment for you. Please get the help you need. You have reached out to us now reach out to those who can really do something for you.

sorry, edited instead of quoted

Stopping some of these types of medications can cause serious side effects. My husband had to slowly cut down the amount of drug he was taking before he could stop taking it.

cajunlady, I'm so sorry--I meant to quote your post and edited instead--I believe it's all there.

gonna get out of here now before I mess something else up!

Ray, please take care and let us know how things are going.

I posted in Gen. Discussion on this and we are now told to stay on topic there so-o-o-I posted that I thought that Ray Had a Mother that he lived with and was therefore not alone. I received a very nice PM from Rays best friend on the forum who told me that "Yes he did live with his Mother" BUT for reasons I should not disclose (I dont want to break a confidence) she is unable to be of any emotional or other kind of help to him. Just wanted to clarify that.

I find it more than a little disconcerting that Ray can find the time to post in GD but can't be bothered to come here and at least acknowledge that some members genuinely wanted to help him. A simple "Thank You" would have sufficed.