I tell ya........ I just dont know what to think about kids these days. This afternoon.... my son Christopher left for church about 10 till 5 to catch the bus as he does every Wednesday night. About 5 minutes later there was a knock on the door. There stood a couple teen age boys wanting to know if Chris was home. I told them no he just left to catch the Church bus. The smaller boy who is about Chris' age said it figures....what a chicken ####.

So I asked if there was a problem. The older boy who is about my sons size was standing in my driveway and said yea there is.... We came here to kick his butt (not the word he used). I was shocked..... So I asked what the problem was.... the smaller kid who was standing at my door said to his friend well lets go find him. Well kids fight and I realise this..... but 2 against 1 and they came to my house to do it

So being a "mom" I told them they better leave him alone. Well the one on my porch said some very nasty, nasty things. Ticked me off... When my son got home I asked him about it...... he says he knows them and that they are mad about his "girlfriend".

I want to call his school in the morning........but he has begged me not too...says they will just harass him more...

They went to your house and then they mouthed off to you???

OMG

What is kids' problem these days?

I hope it gets cleared up and they leave Chris alone.

Call the school and explain to the teachers bullies should be put in there place. Do not want to worrie you but these days bullies of all ages sometimes use more then there hands better to be safe then sorry (they see it on tv).

That is completely horrible. I don't think I could ever talk to an adult that way. Not like that and not the way I see some kids talk - some of them just don't care these days what they say and who they say it to.

I would have been so angry I just can't believe they did that - coming to your house and then saying nasty things to you.

Nervy kids to come to your door and TELL you what they were going to do. Not too bright are they. I'd say talk to the school anyway. We did with my son earlier this year and the problem has stopped completely. Our son is 13. They have a policeman stationed in his school and he assists with problems in the school, partially to help stop the bullying before it gets to extremes. If there isn't some kind of intervention, it will just get worse. The kids don't sound mature enough to handle it by themselves. The other boys may jump your son somewhere and hurt him.

The was a case here in the UK were a WHOLE class of like 30 girls picked on 1 girl and they were all suspended from school, another case were a boy got stabbed out side school. A lot of kids start bullying because of issues at home or it to make them look cool.

Yea I know things can get bad.... But you know how teenage boys are...and well he's begging..... please mom dont.......they will just tease me more. Makes me wonder what their parents are like.

And it was shocking to say the least to have them show up at my door like that. As far as I know Chris has never been in trouble. Makes good grades, plays football, has a girlfriend he adores and goes to church....never had any complaints about him so I cant figure why they would pick on him

Well if they say it's because of his girlfriend - I'm assuming they like her - sounds like jealousy is all.

I know there were times when I was in school and I would beg my mom not to call about certain things and not to do certain things - it was embarrassing at first, but afterwards I always appreciated it.

I think it's a tough situation to be in, but I can't really say since I'm not a parent.

Do they have any security at his school? Maybe you can ask them to keep a watch - tell them you don't want anything to be said but you just want to make sure he will be ok?

If those boys know they can get away with it, it will just get worse.

My son got picked on at school earlier this year. On of the boys who picked on him had the nerve to act like a "witness" to the school cop when my son retaliated and hit the other kid after the other kid had picked on him awhile. We had gotten called in and told that the mother of the other kid was pressing charges against OUR son because of it. It continued on and the "witness" kid continued to harass our son until we finally went back to the school and talked with the principal and school cop. Turns out the "witness" was involved with the bullying. Since then the whole mess has stopped. No more bullying. And all the charges have been dropped.

The kids may beg you not to intervene, but they don't understand how the system works.

We live in a very small town about 2,000 so there is no cop at school. Just the regular staff....but it does worry me just seeing what kids do on the news..

Hopefully talking to the principle and having them keep an eye on things will work. I sure dont want to make things worse for him though.

I woldn't think it would. I would imagine the principal knows what to do with the boys. I would hate to not address it and something happen. If those kids would talk to your face like that, can't imagine what they would do behind your back. Sounds like they need a good reality check as Judge Hatchett would say. Hope everything turns out ok. Very scarey.

Edited to add: sounds bossier in print than I mean to. Sorry.

What a way to talk to an adult.
Kids don't even bother how to talk with a woman of their mother's age

Call the policemen and principal. They'll take crae of it.
or the guys will keep on harrasing your child.

Crows are black everywhere in the world! I though that in foreign countries these worse things doesn't take place.

Calling the policeman and principal will resolve the matter once, but things can go worse later. Policeman and principal will not accompany your child always and then those bad boys might try to take the revenge.

I think those two boys have any delusion in their mind for the "Girlfriend" of your child. Just tell that girl to rebuke them once and I think this will solve all the things. Just my opinion

Since you live in such a small town, do you know the parents of them boys? Are they the kind of people you can talk to just in a way like: you won't believe what happened to me this Wednesday, your son stood on my doorstairs (doorstairs????) and wanted to kick some *behinds*, can je imagine??? Or something like that?

I would go to school anyway, these days the teachers all had some education in how to handle bullying (at least here in the Netherlands they have), they don't just go straight to the bully to tell them that X'mummy has called (as they did in my time.....yes...veeeeerrrry helpfull ).

And I would contact the parents of your sons irlfriend, perhaps they are herrasing her as well.....together you're strong

It's better to be safe than sorry when it comes to your children.
Get a "No Trespassing" order on those two. Where I live, it's simple - all you have to do is send a registered letter to the parents of those children and once you have a copy of the letter and the reciept that it's been signed for, if they show up on your property again, you can have them arrested for "Trespass Against Notice".
Notify the school of your intent to do this, and make sure that the teacher's keep a keep them away from your son.
Ask your son and his girlfriend what the problem is, how it originated and how long this has been going on.
Be proactive.
I've embarrassed my children many times because of my concern's for their safety, and it's never bothered me one bit.

Best wishes in resolving this - Cheri

Oh boy am I glad to be living in the country where you can still grab such rascalls by the ear and drag them kicking and screaming to their homes, where they'd get what they deserve from their own parents.
Sheeesh nobody comes and threatens me or my family in my own house.
Come to think of it nobody would dare do it anyways, with the yard guarded by my very protective Rottie female.
Dunno how you've managed to control yourself, would've whacked the little **** accross the mouth.

If those kids are harrassing your son (and it is harrassment) then they are probably ddoing the same to others. Chances are the school has an idea of what's going on but will need complaints or to catch them in order to do something. For the sake of your son and for others that are being terrorized by these guys, file a complaint and follow it up. Talk to your son, his girlfriend and other friends/classmates and their parents if possible to have as much information as possible.

Your son will be embarrassed initially, but that will pass.

I think a good slap was in order, you'd win in any court case they brought.

((((Mystical2000))))

Everyone has given good advice. I dont have children(at times like this I am thankful..lol) so I am no expert, but dont take any chances with your sons safety...he will be embarrassed but it will pass in time