What are you going to if your a parent caught your teenager brought a drugs into your house? What are you going to do?? What type of punishment should give your teenager for bring Drugs into your House?

What are you going to do now?

I've actually had this happen. I found some pills in my stepson's pocket before I washed his jeans. I couldn't identify them so I called the local hospital's pharmacy. He was taking Ritalin - I guess he thought it would help him. We got him to a doctor who prescribed another drug for him. As far as punishment goes, there was none - just a lot of heart-to-heart talking and a whole lot of praying going on.

Cheri

The drugs pills could be estacy and other type of drugs going on Teenager World today Society.

I got my behind bruised (for drinking). My kids thankfully are too young, but I do talk about drugs, smoking and drinking, and why they are bad for you. I am not looking forward to those years. AAARRRGGGG!!!!! Only a few years away!

My kids are all grown, my youngest is 20, they all knew if I caught them doing anything illegal and I'm not kidding anything illegal they better have somewhere to go because they weren't living with me anymore. It must have worked none of them have ever been in trouble.

NO PUNISHMENT EVER!
(not that I have kids but..)
You know that the forbidden fruit is the sweetest, right?
Punishment doesn't teach kids, talk does.
Just sit down with them and talk like a friend, not like a parent.

IMO there are times when being "friends" with your kids is kinda ok but when it comes to drugs, sex, or just about any other dangerous activity they don't need thier parents to be friendly they have thier friends for that they need their parents to take the hard road and be parents.

I caught my son with pot when he was 16. I did not punish him, didn't even scold him. I made a deal with him that he could smoke pot as long as he promised never to use harder drugs. That was 11 years ago and he never once expermented with the harder drugs.

I grew up in the 60's and 70's. I smoked it. I wasn't going to tell my kid he wasn't allowed to do something I did when I was his age. I never tried anything other then pot myself and I was really worried he would get caught up with something far worse then pot. We were talking a few years back and he thanked me for being so understanding and for making him promise to never try any other drug. He said he was offered other drugs many times but he kept his word and never tried anything else.

He is now married with his own kids, has a good job and turned out to be a really good kid. Sean was not only my son, he was and still is my best friend!

Rich

I would call the police and have them arrested.
They are criminals. I don't need that in my house.
Once a druggie always a druggie.

There is plenty of drugs, drinking, and sex at my school (and I live in a rich area).

Why, just today a guy got arrested by the police at my school for the possession of coke.

A couple weeks ago, a guy and a girl were having sex in the school bathroom during class and got suspended for only 2 days.

I myself Im 18 drugs never interested me my true love are computers and cars find your teens a hobby and trust me drugs wont cross there minds.

I USED to have a friend who was a drug dealer he tried to sell me some but i always said no and he's no longer my friend. ( i think i got a little off subject there sorry.)

theres a lot of people smoking pot in my skoo too. u can smell it and it jus irritates the heck out of u.

I have 2 teens 13 and 14 both boys. If I catch them or even suspect them of doing drugs. They will be shaving before they ever leave the house again.

lol mystical will you be cracking the whip aswell

I would have a big long talk with them, I would not get angry. I would try to find out why they feel the need to do drugs, is it to be "cool" or are they having problems, i would try to relate to them, hey I was a teenager once and i exiperimented with drugs, ofcourse I would talk to them about what is wrong with doing drugs, the damage is does to your body, how it can ruin your life etc, I would not say it wrong because i saidso, my parents were like that and it NEVER worked for me....

The first time I would not punish them at all. Most kids want to experiment at least once. I know I did when I was a teenager so I also refuse to be a hypocrit. But if I repeatedly caught them then there might be some type of punishment.

QUOTE (Jordan @ Jun 4 2004, 06:56 PM)

there is no 1 answer to this all kids are different all families are different the way a 2 parent family deals with things is different from the way a 1 parent family deals with things and the way a blended family works is anybobies guess been there done that and it's the worst of the 3. I just hope when it happens everyone thinks before they act.

At the highschool in my area, when it was senior skip day, someone made a call to the school suspecting someone had a gone. They searched all the lockers and everyones bags. No one found a gun, but they found 60 people with possesion of drugs. The school has about 1000 people, and 60 out of 1000 is low for highschoolers.

I agree that a night in jail would be an effective punishment.
That's what will happen anyway if the problem goes unchecked, it needs to be nipped in the bud before it gets out of hand.

When I was a teen ager my mother smoked pot.. ( shhh but she still does) my father did not. He wanted me to see things that happen to "hard core " drug users...

We went to the local hospital and I was shown people in comas, from OD'ing, on that ward I was told Stories of teens that died from Od'ing...
that visit left an impression on my mind. We talked about drugs and the effects drugs have on people.

We then went to the Local Police station... and I was TOLD of crimes that people had committed and their reason was money for drugs..
The next week we went to the local FBI office in Washinton DC and I was told about the hardships of the CHILDREN in the countrys where most drugs were culitivated...

My dad did this on his own...

later... I had gone to party where there was drugs... I called my dad he came and got me...

As an Adult I smoked pot... but quit after I gained like 15 pounds in 6 mths... all those "munchies" never once tried any thing harder


Drinking I did that once... no one told me that you are not supposed to mix them... you know beer, wine, wine coolers, and liquor....
Need less to say I was sick... again called dad cause even though I was drunk I knew I was in over my head...
He didnt lecture, yell , or scream... Instead he held my hair as I hugged the toilet... he had me drink water and eat crackers...
the next morning we talked about alcohol abuse... And how not to become that way.. I drink MAYBE 2 times a year... heck there are still beers in the fridge from New Year's

Punishment.... you did NOT break curfew in my house... LOL 1 week for every minute you are late... only took 1 time... I was cured... i was 10 mins late.. and was grounded for 2.5 months...

My dad was a great father.. I knew that I could depend on him... I knew that even when I had done WRONG I could still call him and count on him.... He is the greatest man in my life.

As for my parenting skills I derive them from my father...
My sons know that drinking isnt good... that is cause they saw the effects of an alcoholic father... and drugs... they are YUCKY... But my son knows that he can depend on me.... and what ever situation he may be in I will always be there for him...

My sister grew up in the same home I did...
She is a crack addict now... she has been to prison for this...
granted she started doing the drugs after she was married and out of the house...

Elsie